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Some of the most meaningful bonding a couple will ever do is on vacation. The new surroundings, the excitement, adventure, sandy beaches, thrilling tours, exquisite cuisine, gorgeous sunsets – all shared together, uniting the two of you even more. Well, so it seems. Quite the contrary, vacations are when couples breakup the most. Often this is because traveling often brings out the worst in people. The airports, the delays, the food poisoning, the plans not going as planned, the kids (if there are any) kicking and screaming the whole way through. A vacation can show you sides of a person you never knew existed, and wish never did. So how then does one go about going away on a romantic getaway, and still come back together in two pieces, together? Well, since we’re the travel experts, we figured it’s time to reveal the 5-step plan to vacationing together and NOT breaking up. Here’s how…
Consider Financial Constraints
Unless you’re a trust-fund baby, some Arab sheik, or Hollywood A-lister than can afford to eat at Eleven Madison park every night – money is a big concern. Especially for those who must “work for a living”, “pay rent”, “have a family with mouths to feed”. Before taking off, you need to both make sure you’re on the same page about how much you have and are willing to spend. For the last thing you want to do is end up trekking on some African Lion Safari, only to find out that someone was too cheap to spring for some silver bullets.
Give Yourself Some Alone Time
Vacations are all about spending every waking moment together in love, right? NOPE. They’re about realizing that after a couple of days of nonstop touring through Eastern Europe together, that your partner needs some time to explore – alone. Think of it just like being back at home: when are the two of you ever truly together 24/7? Never. You work, you have separate friends, you have your own interests … you actually spend most of the time apart. Trying to be attached at the hip on vacation then, is actually rather jarring to the relationship. Space is grossly underrated. Don’t force him to spend a day at Madame Tussauds. Don’t insist that she enjoys the Red Light district along with you. Remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and leave them be to be free.
Don’t Force The Sex
Calculate 40 weeks prior to your birthdate, and you’ll likely discover that your parents were on vacation at the time. Yes, because vacations are supposed to be romantic, therefore you should be having sex. Lots of it. But if one, or both of you is not feeling it – don’t force it. It won’t make things better, but only matters worse. There’s already a ton of pressure for things to go right when you’re away. Heck, you’re paying for it. Why add the pressure of having sex to the list? Vacations are a time of relaxing, not stress. And nothing is more stressful than forcing something that isn’t happening. In fact, the less you force it, the more it’ll happen.
This may sound like an odd one, but it’s very sound advice. Sleep is of the utmost importance – especially after a long day of touring and sightseeing. Unfortunately, the mattress and bedding can, and often are, a nightmare. From lumpy and creaky, to bed-bug ridden – at the very least – you should bring your own separate blankets. In a bad bed that makes for a horrible night’s sleep, the blanket should be the last thing you two fight over.
Know Who You’re Traveling With
This one’s for all you newly coupled couples. And it’s the most important one: know who you’re traveling with. Vacations can absolutely bring out the worst in a person, which is really just an amplifying of their worst qualities. So it’s a good thing to ask yourself, “Is he a slob?” “Is she selfish?” “Does he flake?” “Is she promiscuous?” Ask yourself what you already know to be true about your partner, then, multiply that times ten, as that’s how much worse it’ll be when the flight’s delayed, the luggage is lost, or the cabbie is taking you on the “scenic” route. Heck, the last thing you want to experience is food poisoning when you’re away, only to have your party insist that they go out to party because they’re away on vacation, rather than holding your hair while you puke away.